Talking vs. Behaving
Talking vs. BehavingThis morning as I dropped my son off at his school, like I do everyday, there was no place to park. So I made the decision to pull up against the red curb across the street. My son got out of the car and I watched him cross the street and go into his school. Just as I was about to pull away from the curb, I noticed an LAPD car coming towards me on the other side of the street. The officer pulled up along the side of my car and rolled his window down. I knew in my gut that I was in trouble; I"d been caught. I rolled my window down to talk to the officer and I was ready to accept the consequences of my decision to park at the red curb. What happened next though, blew my mind.
"Hey I know you," the officer said to me. I was so flattered to be recognized by him that I literally forgot about the situation at hand. "You own a martial arts school, right?" he asked. I proudly replied, "Yes." He then replied, "Nice example to set for our kids man. Way to go!" and then drove off.
At that moment I felt as small and humiliated as one can feel. I wished he would have given me the ticket after all; hell, I would have rather been arrested; it would have been less painful than the pain I was feeling at that moment. I pulled over to the side of the street and just sat there in my car. All I could think about and feel was shame and "how" could I change this officer"s opinion of me. I thought about bringing him coffee in the morning; I thought about asking an LAPD friend to reach out and put in a good word for me; anything that would put me right with the officer. Then it hit me. I was trying so hard to "talk" myself out of a situation that I had "behaved" myself into.
A humbling lesson to start the morning.
Consequences are what influence most of what we do on a daily basis. Unpleasant outcomes usually keep us from repeating the same decision.